In a Nutshell

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Keep finding things

to love about

yourself.

 

Live Magically,

Coley

Turning Gray Skies Blue

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Without exception, everybody gets hit with shit. Some succumb to the pressure. Others barely survive. Why? Because, they’ve lost their muchness. Well, that’s what The Mad Hatter said to Alice: “You’ve lost your muchness. In there (pointing to her belly), something’s missing.” 

What’s missing in your life?

Sure, it is beyond wonderful to have that particular someone in your life who, without fail, creates beautiful ballads from bad rhymes; who turns your frown upside down; who extends unrelenting support; whose energy cocoons you and transmits new life; whose silent love imbues strength.

But what if that special person is not available or are no longer here on earth? 

There is a reason that your peace is deeply disturbed or that your boat is at the brink of a shipwreck. And until you realize and exercise your own strength, you may be kept in the storm.

So, where is your muchness?

There is a smoldering in your belly. When ignited, it becomes a powerful flame that can never be extinguished no matter what life douses. 

The strength you need already exists inside of you.

Do you have the guts to light it? Because no one else, no matter how lovely, is capable of lighting your fire. 

Live Magically, 

Coley

Quicksand

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It seems as though the earth upon which I stand is quicksand. Slowly sinking but never fully submerging is a heartless ruse. 

 I am forced to lay back when I’m accustomed to being strong, fighting, going against the grain and all. But because of the cement-like sediment, I cannot battle and quickly maneuver or else I seal my fate with my demise.

So, what do I do? 

The hour is late. The tide is soon to roll in. There is no “sink or swim” and “fly or die” doesn’t apply.

The only thing that I am able to do is close my eyes, lean back, breathe and wait for salvation.

Sometimes, I wonder if all of this is worth it? My answer is yes!

Life certainly teaches. But is the drama necessary? A simple notecard mysteriously placed on my pillow will do.

I suppose experiencing a particular thing is best. Beyond everything, I can only strengthen atrophied muscles by actually working them. But I never anticipated that relaxing and mentally letting go would be an area that needed exercise.

But I accept the invitation. Actually, I have no choice.

Live Magically,

Coley

Perfect Confessions

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Perfection has absolutely nothing to do with physical attributes, other than the fact that whatever you’re born with is downright flawless.

Thus, striving for perfection, in the physical sense, is an unnecessary burden. It leads to stress and dumbass decisions like butchering your body via plastic surgery for the sole purpose of cosmetic vanity.

Incidentally, no amount of surgery will keep you looking young and pretty. If truth be told, altering your bone structure and getting injections to obtain the perfect look actually ages you tremendously. You cannot one-up Father Time. However, there’s something exquisitely beautiful, dazzling and elegant about a man or woman who accepts and adores his or her body; and ages gracefully without going under the knife.

“Your face is marked with lines of life, put there by love and laughter, suffering and tears. It’s beautiful.” ~Lynsay Sands

“Youth is a gift of nature, but age is a work of art.” ~Stanislaw Jerzy Lec

So, tell me, what makes you perfect? 

Do you subscribe to someone else’s meaning or do you have your own? Does your meaning give you anxiety? Does it cause stress or depression? If so, then simply change your connotation of the word. You do not have to abide by anyone else’s definition!

Here’s my take. 

My notion of perfection has an air of lightness and loveliness. For me, perfection and love are cut from the same cloth. And like love, perfection is a verb. It is a doing with a particular quality.

Perfection is:

Loving myself entirely

A deep embrace

Playfulness and laughter

Being there

Sharing

Knowing when to say, “no” 

Knowing when to let go

Living my truth no matter who’s watching

Performing at my very best

So, unburden yourself with society’s standard of perfection and devise your own. You’ll enjoy life a whole lot better!

Live Magically,

Coley

To Thine Ownself Be True

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The title of this blog is a quote written by Willam Shakespeare in Hamlet. Lord Polonius, in part, says, “This above all: to thine ownself be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.”

The quote is a profound proverb which behaves like a prick sprouting from the stem of a rose. It got my attention. Ouch!

I  thought that I knew myself pretty well and unabashedly lived my truth. Well, I uncovered that I wasn’t one-hundred percent doing so. 

So, I purposely set time aside to figure out some things. And lo and behold, I found eureka—a particular moment in my childhood when I believed ________________.

That belief is my unadulterated truth, at least one of them anyway.

(Just now as I typed the word “unadulterated,” I noticed the word “adult” embedded. Adulterate means to dilute, debase, make impure. My guess is that by the time we reach adulthood, we’ve basically annihilated our young pure, creative, genius, free-thinking mind, not to mention adults obliterating children’s imaginations.)

Just let that sit for a moment.

In case you are wondering, the blank line above is deliberate and twofold:

  1. I am not divulging my deeply rooted belief and neither should you. 
  2. Fill in the blank with one of your childhood beliefs.

Conclusion: I will never know the depth, width and height of my majesty. I am a rose that’ll never reach full bloom because the unfolding of my exquisite, silky, perfumed petals is forever replenished and flowering. I suppose I could’ve used an onion peel analogy but that ain’t cute.

In the end, or beginning, whatever truth you presently hold about yourself, live it. Then uncover another, and then another. 

By the way, do you think that experiencing real happiness has anything to do with living your truth?

Live Magically,

Coley

Do You Believe In Magic?

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There have been countless studies using placebos. Why? Because the mind and its powerful effects have baffled scientists, physicians, corporate heads and others for years on end.

The findings of EVERY experiment (to my knowledge, at least) have all proven that our core belief systems trump medicines, diets, and any other external modalities in terms of getting desirable and lasting results.

You may soon realize, if not already, that the only thing that can heal—be it bodily, financially, or relationships is your mind.

And the crazy thing is that even our mind is a placebo. But that’s what we’ve got. So it’s better to make good use of it.

Now then, in order to change anything in your life, all you have to do is change your mind. Easier said than done, I know. 

We’ve been heavily conditioned to think a certain way and to believe what we’ve been told. In short, we’ve adopted other peoples theories and opinions as our own. This sorta training has been occurring since we exited our mother’s womb. And the indoctrination will continue the span of our lifetime, if we let it.

The mind is your magic wand. It is your genie in a bottle.

If there is a specific thing (or things) that has been plaguing your life, then it is time to get to the nitty-gritty of your beliefs, stop agreeing with them and formulate new ones—your own!

For example, if, at the core of my being, I believe that by chewing bubblegum I will grow taller, then I will grow taller; and no one can tell me differently. Frankly, it is nobody’s business what I believe. And I certainly don’t need anyone raining on my parade. 

Sidebar: Never criticize another person’s beliefs because they don’t match your own. Not only is that asinine but belittling. We are not robots built in a factory. Appreciate and applaud individuality. It brings richness to life.

No one said that making a change would be easy or that the show of outcome would be immediate. Remain steadfast in your beliefs.

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” ~Proverbs 23:7

So, do you believe in magic? There’s only one way to find out.

Live Magically,

Coley 

Riddle Me This

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If we are born of God, Source, Universe, Consciousness or whatever esteemed name you fancy, then we must be an exact replica of the Original enveloping all of what that One Entity constitutes, right?

Do you have any idea the qualities that shape God? Qualities that you’ve actually encountered firsthand and not what you’ve read or heard?

For me, the One Entity, who existed before time and space, is exquisitely beautiful, marvelously magical, profoundly loving, perfectly healthy, perpetually giving, extraordinarily happy, otherworldly creative, inconceivably intelligent, mind-blowingly strong, uncommonly wealthy, remarkably valiant, supremely spontaneous, awesomely adventurous, and wondrously safe and secure. Consequently, I must be all of these things too. After all, we are equal.

And, as I sit and contemplate my complete being—spirit, soul and body, I place extra attention on my spirit which only exists as perfection. The more I acknowledge my spirit, the more access I give it to heal my body, to perform miracles, to be happy, to live magically and to be all of those qualities I deem of God.

So, when will you spend time honoring and celebrating your spirit? It is patiently and lovingly waiting for your “hello.”

Live Magically,

Coley